On the one hand, you want to appear interested, engaging, and just flirtatious enough that she knows it’s a date and not a one-way ticket to the “friend zone.” On the other, you don’t want to come on so strong that she thinks you’re only interested in having sex.It’s not always easy, of course—especially when nerves come into play and you two aspiring lovebirds struggle to find your conversational footing.
But, rather than stay single, I figured out what the hell I wanted from my next long-term partner, dove straight into dating, and found myself in the middle of a rotation — that is, seeing a multitude of men, all noncommittally.
It's just gotten more buzz ever since Chloe, the infamous party girl and lead character from Of course, I’m not the only 20-something who jumped into a rotation immediately following a breakup.
Nina, a 25-year-old accountant living in Chicago, started hers after a four-year relationship ended. And, Monica*, a 25-year-old producer in New York City, can also echo the experience.
It was a harsh wake-up call for the 28-year-old, who started drinking at age 15. Mc Garry knew he had to quit, but there was just one problem: His life was all about alcohol.
He’s one of the city’s top bartenders; in 2013, he won the International Bartender of the Year award at Tales of the Cocktail, and he’s a partner at popular downtown cocktail dens the Dead Rabbit and Black Tail. “Drinking,” he says, “had become detrimental.” For those working behind the bar, alcoholism is an on-the-job hazard.