Although not an official psychiatric diagnosis, Jennifer’s sex addiction has caused her tremendous pain and suffering over the years.
Her compulsive behavior, which she thinks may have been triggered by childhood abuse, destroyed relationships and ultimately wrecked her marriage.
Getty Images You often hear stories about sex addicts who have multiple partners, or who have sex in parking lots, or hook up with strangers they meet on the Internet. My life was a constant juggling act of at least two men, making sure they didnt find out about each other. I remember praying the week of my wedding, “God, please let me be faithful.” Two weeks later, I started looking around.
I got married in January 2000 and by April I was in a full-blown affair.
Are you incapable of being present in your marriage while doing recovery?
Dear Jo Ann, I would like to preface this by saying that I have yet to determine whether my husband is a sex addict with a compulsion to consume porn, surf escort sites, and sleep with prostitutes OR an entitled, narcissistic bastard who believes these behaviors are acceptable and deserved (by him) and is just apologizing and trying to make amends simply because he was caught. I have always felt a distance from my husband – a certain disconnection on his part that was exacerbated by his minimal ability to empathize w others and his obsession w himself.To say I was a good wife prior to my sobriety would be a lie, I was not in so many ways.My husband and I had much more of a parent child relationship for many years, it certainly was not a healthy relationship.Everything is about him – his pain, his frustration, his discomfort.I have come to think of him as a chronic malcontent.