Perhaps the most common question heard nowadays at single parent workshops is: ''How do I conduct my own love life, freely and comfortably, without psychologically harming my child?'' The mental health professionals offer no easy answers.
That's generally healthy for the adults; it means they're moving on to the next phase of their lives. Marilyn daughters, Shana, and twins Alison and Rachel, were 4 and 19 when she and their father split up after almost 27 years.
"To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace" (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8).
For most ex-spouses, the wise choice is to wait until the initial shock and trauma of marital dissolution can dissipate.
The article below highlights some of the complications that often come up when divorced parents decide to live with someone new. Does your child feel comfortable around this person? Does he have skills that allow proper care of your child?
By Brette Sember When you're thinking about whether or not you should move in with your new love, you need to of course examine your feelings about the person and evaluate the relationship. You should also examine the relationship your child has with this person. When someone moves in with you, he assumes a parental role with your child, whether you intend for that to happen or not.