Think of Homer’s odyssey (not Simpson), Dr Richard Kimble’s quest to find the one armed man in the Fugitive, or attempting to join the SAS.

These are all childs play when compared with finding and keeping a Dutch woman.

They are cultured and elegant, but they are nonchalant about their culture and their elegance. That casualness, that carelessness, is to me a very Parisian quality. That same nonchalance must apply to seduction as well. But romanticism is a fantasy that has no place in real life.

Here are 7 critical things you need to know about dating Dutch women.Even for a married woman to go out with a male friend who is single: I often travel to Paris by myself, Leyla and Olivier stay in Paimpol, and have dinner with one (or several) of our good male friend(s), single or not.Olivier trusts me, and we both trust our friend(s), who would never make a pass at me.Nor did I know about this first date, second date and third date business.In France, it’s very common for a girl to go out to dinner with a male friend.