' I promised I'd see what I could do, hardly imagining fate might intervene in the form of the Daily Mail.Caelen regularly tells me he's worried about who'll look after me if I'm still alone when he leaves home. The truth is, he wants to be part of a family and have a dad around.But as I grow older, still having never met Mr Right, I accept there's more chance of me being a stepmother than a biological mum. He and his sister are visiting their father, who lives in Germany.At the airport, Caelen pleaded: 'Can I have a new step-daddy when I get back?If you couldn't agree, the parents would decide later. The eldest, my husband, became Mr Sensible and demanded everyone take it all very seriously 'for Mum and Dad's sake'.
The whole exercise went nowhere and simply left the siblings feeling bemused and irritated.Most people are very surprised to learn that adult stepfamilies, that is, those that are formed in the second-half of life and include adult stepchildren, have just as many transitions as stepfamilies with younger children.Some of the transitional issues are different, but many are the same.The ripples of that pretend grin still echo through my life.Indeed, it is only now, after 15 years of marriage, aged 47 and with two daughters of my own, that I understand the lifelong impact of a father's philandering.