Yesterday, it was announced that singer Bryan Ferry had separated from his second wife, Amanda, after a mere 19 months of wedded bliss.I couldn’t help but note she is 37 years his junior. For much of my adult life I had a penchant for older men. Like Catherine Zeta-Jones, whose relationships with men her own age seem to have ended in disappointment, I found the majority of my male contemporaries to be boobies, lacking in wit, experience and chivalry. Well, the Duke of Wellington became Prime Minister for the second time aged 65.Prince Talleyrand, Napoleon’s foreign minister, who was catnip to women, fathered a child in his 60s.Churchill was 66 when he became PM in 1940, and Ronald Reagan was almost 70 when he entered the White House.
And then you learn that the same year you graduated college, he was wrapping up his freshman year—of high school.
Dating someone younger—whether you’re two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory—certainly can work (look at Eva Longoria and her 4-years younger beau), but being an “older woman” in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls.
If you want to make things work, be sure you can handle the following. Men reach their sexual prime in their twenties due to a spike in testosterone, while women typically reach theirs in their 30s and 40s.
Making the most of being an older man with a younger woman The fact is, she fell for you, not a younger guy, and you have to play up your strengths without overcompensating or displaying any insecurities.
If she’s dating an older man, there’s probably a reason, and the best you can do in this situation is make the most of what you have and who you are.