Expressing amusement shows you have a sense of humor, and the casual nature of these terms allows you to "lower your guard," in a sense. You should also avoid writing a boring autobiography explaining who you are; if people are interested they can read your profile or ask.
And do not suggest the two of you meet up, or even exchange numbers or email addresses.
This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone-forever.
I try not to lose hope that there can be some genuine connections made through meeting someone off of the internet. I have even made several lasting friends from some of my experiences.
Your first message determines the initial impression you make, and only about one-third of first messages even receive a reply.
A common theme of success in sending your message is to be intelligently casual.
Use that scientific discovery to your own advantage, by starting your email with a “Hello [Username]” and not a non-specific “Hi.” If you want to create a feeling of warmth, shorten their name, use its initials, or create a nickname based on one of their interests. Everyone loves to read about themselves, so don’t begin your message by launching straight in about you.
Create something that’s witty and warm and demonstrates you’ve read their profile, as opposed to just flicking through their photos. Research has shown that people warm towards hearing their own name in conversation.Below, I have outlined some good and bad examples of messages and have given some tips on how to send an effective message on an online dating site.Whatever happens, don't be put off sending messages, a cheesy message is better than no message at all!“Hi James, I really like your profile and you made me laugh with your comment about the kind of girls you usually meet.I’m not too into the tangoed look myself, but I do usually have a tan in the summer from being out in the field with my horse.